How much value do you put into the opinions of others?
It’s ok, I won’t tell, how much?
I would love to be the person that says “none.”
That can confidently say my happiness would never rely on the approval of others.
However, that would be a lie.
I have gotten better in terms of wearing something that is in fashion just to please others, or wearing lots of makeup because it’s what you’re “supposed” to do.
Throughout the last couple of years I have put little thought into superficial things like that.
If I want to read a book and others think I’m being lazy, I am going to sit and read.
If I need to get up at 4:30 in the morning to get my workout in for the day, and others think I am obsessive, who cares.
If I get made fun of for liking Taylor Swift, bring it on because she is my queen.
I am slightly embarrassed that it took roughly thirty years to get to that place but I am proud of myself for getting there.
It’s all part of life right? Learning lessons at your own pace?
That’s the point of this post today.
Have you seen those posts where someone says “I was today years old when..”
While I was today years old where I came to this realization that I am pretty freaking awesome.
I would have dropped the F bomb but my grandma reads these.
I was driving today listening to a Spotify curated playlist titled “Happy Mix” rocking out to steal my girl when the thought came to me.
You see, I’ve been struggling a little recently.
I have been working pretty hard for the approval of others. Maybe it’s not even approval but the acceptance.
I have been at the top of my game trying to feel good about myself and get to a place of happiness so that I would attract approval and acceptance.
Has anyone else done this?
I’m going to say yes to make myself feel better.
When I was driving home today rocking out to One Direction I was reminded of how much fun I am.
I remembered that I am funny, helpful, caring, passionate, and kind.
And if that isn’t what someone see’s in me, it’s not a me problem, it’s a them problem.
I thought that if I did all the right things for the approval of others then maybe I would have it.
When in reality, here I am trying so hard and I still don’t have it.
So why try so hard?
Why try so hard to make sure the world sees you as funny, caring, kind, and passionate.
When YOU know that YOU already are.
And if there are people in your life who love you and support you, then why do you need anything else.
My point is, why does the acceptance of others matter?
I see it at work and I’ve seen it in my own life.
Someone has made it clear that they don’t want you, and yet you work so hard to be appealing to them.
And they still don’t want you.
You work so hard to get their approval that you forget to give attention to those who love you for who you are.
Hold on to those people.
You want approval from those people, because they will love you no matter what.
They will stand in your corner and cheer you on.
You can trust that they see you as you see yourself, if not better.
If someone can’t see how special you are, please stop wasting your precious energy on them.
And spend it on those who love you for you.